Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Our first RE appointment

We actually met with his nurse practitioner but she was extremely knowledgeable. It was pretty funny because she would ask a question and I would hand her a spreadsheet or chart to answer her questions. She just kept saying.. well, it seems as if you have done your research. I told her that I had a lot of friends going through infertility so we help each other out. I didn't tell her that my friends were all through blogs or a group on Facebook because I don't want to make you less important than the friends I actually see and have met. All of you get me. All of you can say you understand and feel my pain and I know you do. Even if you don't comment, I know you are here for me and I am here for all of you as well. We all have one common goal which is to be a parent and bring a healthy baby home.

We talked about all of our other test results, IUI and IVF. With my husband having a low count IUI doesn't really seem like a great option because he has 5.4 million that are actually swimming so after the wash we would have a very low chance of it working. SO upsetting since it is only around $700 to give it a go. I had blood drawn as well to check my AMH and should hear back by Friday and she may actually have the RE call me to discuss the findings. I am praying that we get good results because something has to go right at one point?!?! She is confident that my insurance will pay for around 3k of the testing but not the procedure so IF this is true it will be around $11,500 for IVF. Of course I asked about their success rates for a woman of my AMA (aka old ass) and she said it was between 50-60%. Of course I added my two cents when she said that by adding "our odds would have been a lot better at 30 when we started dating but someone took 7 years for us to get married!" On the way home my husband just couldn't get over the odds. He kept saying that he had better odds playing blackjack than us getting pregnant. And 12k is a lot of money for a "chance" at having a baby with no guarantee. FINALLY he is starting to get it. He would always shrug it off when I would talk about getting older and having a baby. He figured it wouldn't be that hard because people are having babies at an older age now. The odds are those older people took a while to get pregnant, or they are movie stars and have unlimited funds, or they are just lucky.

Anyway... I will let you guys know the results from the AMH test as soon as I find out. Until then I will be trying to relax. Trying being the key word. Please send good thoughts our way!

12 comments:

  1. Good luck with your AMH. Easier said than done but try and relax. I'll be thinking of you.

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    1. Thanks Janet! Still trying to relax..

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  2. Glad you are getting some answers and coming up with a plan. By the way, this is Mandy from FB group. www.auntmimi2010.blogspot.com

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  3. Good luck!! - This is Jennifer from our group. :) www.itsjenniferjuniper.com

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  4. Yay! I'm glad you had a good meeting. Hope your AMH comes back high.

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  5. My husband has a low sperm count as well. My doc has us doing our 6 IUI's that are covered by insurance first and then IVF. I almost feel like it's a waste of time, but IVF is so expensive. :/ Good luck on your AMH test!

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    1. SO EXPENSIVE. I wish my insurance did more! I will be 38 in November so time is an issue with us as well. This test HAS to come back good!

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  6. Glad you finally got in and that you are pleased with the practice. Praying for good results and a great plan moving forward.

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  7. I have links for grants on ivf procedures. I wouldn't hurt to see if you fall within the required guidelines.

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