I'm not sure if you have experienced it, but I already have within the "short" year of trying to conceive. We all have different problems but I have always felt that we are all infertile women rooting and praying for each other to get that bring home baby. Recently I have found out that this is not the case. I'm sure it is a coping mechanism for this person but really? I guess that me not ovulating every month, having low progesterone , being 38 in 2 1/2 months and having a husband with a low count and 10% motility doesn't count.
I expect to get stupid comments from people that have never experienced infertility, or (although unknowingly) uncaring comments from family members and friends. But when it comes from the community that I have grown so close to in a couple short months it is even worse.
"at least you haven't....." You are right... I have never been pregnant and miscarried, I have not been through multiple rounds of IUI, I have not been through IVF, I have not had any surgery to correct problems. Whether it was meant to be judgemental or not.. it was. I also don't have insurance that covers fertility so whatever we move forward with is 100% paid by us, even the medication coverage is horrible. Two months of progesterone is around $90 and the test to check my progesterone is $81.90 each time. The IUI with the medication and tests I will need is around 1k each time and the percentage we have been given for success is less than 3%. IVF is going to cost us around 16k. So basically everything has to be VERY thought out before we do anything.
I just want all of you who read my blog to know that I am here for you no matter what type of infertility you are experiencing. Every time I read that someone has lost a baby I am sad even though I have not personally experienced it. Every time someone has a negative beta after IUI or IVF my heart breaks. Every time someone gets pregnant in our circle and has spotting I hold my breath and pray until I hear that everything is okay. Every time someone brings home their baby after struggling I celebrate with them. So I never would have thought there were levels of infertility.
Thanks for listening. Now I can move on with my day!