Thursday, April 17, 2014

25 Weeks

Well here I am sitting at 25 weeks. We are having a barbecue with my husbands extended family on Saturday.. And then my next shower is May 10th. I am feeling extremely blessed and extremely stressed. My husband has become detached from so much because of the stress of money. The financial aspect of twins is scary, along with an almost 15 year old going to college in four years. My income is going away, or at least getting cut way back as well. I understand why he is acting the way he is but in a selfish way it has been very hard on me. He has no interest in feeling my stomach when the boys start kicking, he asks if everything is okay after appointments but that is the extent. He has no excitement to get the nursery ready so I have been trying to do things on my own. I have to do my glucose test in a couple of weeks and he asked me how much it was going to cost, and did I really have to have it done. My deductible has been met so it will be 20%, but all blood work has been covered up to now. So I called the OB's office to get the medical codes and diagnostic code and will be calling my insurance today to make sure I know what the bill is ( I do billing for a living). All of the sonograms have been covered with my OB so I didn't think to call and check with the specialist. The two ultrasounds there were over $1,500 each. Needless to say we got a bill for $800 last week that made our current situation even better and he was very upset with me for not checking before hand (but it met my deductible). The babies will be covered under my insurance for 30 days but have their own deductible and then they switch to their own insurance and will get another deductible.  I am praying that they stay put until 37 weeks and there is no NICU stay. Diapers.. 20ish a day $$$.. hopefully I can nurse to save money on formula $$$. Clothes.. well they are babies and it is summer so if we don't get a lot at the showers they can live in onsies for a while. I really don't know how we are going to do it. I cry a lot lately. I am stressed a lot. My husband feels like I don't do enough and the doctor feels like I am doing too much. I can't win. Prayers, good thoughts... whatever you have to send would be greatly appreciated.

My bump picture has been updated. The picture was taken three hours after a tearful fight about finances so I had to Photoshop out some puffiness and redness.

25 weeks - Two rutabagas!


The high point of my week was getting some maternity pictures taken by a friend of mine, and I got a gift card from Holly a friend of mine through blogging. I am going to use the gift card to buy their baby books today. Thank Holly you have been a great friend!

I got two sneak peeks of my images. Of course I removed my face. Maybe I should just stop being private?

25 weeks with twins

25 weeks with twins

17 comments:

  1. Eeeek! These are BEAUTIFUL photos! (I'm sure they're even MORE beautiful with your face! : ) )

    So sorry about the financial stress. I know how hard financial stuff can be on a marriage. : ( Hang in there, my friend, it's all going to be worth it soon!

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  2. I'm sorry there has been so much stress surrounding your pregnancy/ birth of your boys. The financial part is hard, but we just let it all fall into place and surprisingly it did with very little stress/hardship. We ended up with lots of hand me downs and returned many shower gifts we didn't really need in favor of buying more diapers. Another hint us to sign up for EVERY new mom offer with the formula companies and other baby gear companies. You'll get tons of free samples and plenty of coupons that help out a lot too. If you use pampers participate in the rewards program because with twins you will end up with lots if points which can be used to purchase boxes of pampers on diapers.com. Take everything from the hospital that your nurses are willing to give you. Diapers, wipes and every formula sample. You may not think you need it, but you might and then it's nice to have the freebies ready and waiting :) wishing you all the best and a less stressful next few weeks!

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  3. Even without your face, those pictures are absolutely stunning!

    I'm so sorry you're dealing with so much stress lately. Have you looked around to see if there are any baby consignment events/stores in your area? My husband and I went to a few events and there are a lot of gently used baby clothes for $3 or less!

    I know this won't work for everyone, but have you looked into cloth diapering? Depending on what type of diaper you want to use, the start up cost can be a bit steep, but you'll save so much money in the long run, especially with twins! You can make a cloth diaper registry on many websites which would allow friends and family to help lessen the start of cost. I'm no expect, but we're planning to cloth diaper, so if you have any questions, feel free to ask!

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  4. We are in very early stages of this now. I am so sorry you are going through this though. It is so scary trying to make sure that your babies are going to be taken care of and I know it is very stressful for our husbands. I bet he will come around and hopefully sooner verses later. I have already started researching companies that give you free diapers etc. After babies are born you just send them a letter with the birth certificates. I have the link if you are interested.

    Your pictures are beautiful!

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  5. Your pictures are beautiful!!! I have no idea what you are going through as far as expecting twins but I agree with Amanda above that money issues make it difficult. Hopefully things will start to fall into place. We have been tight on money before when my husband changed jobs and had to just really cut back on things we "choose" to have versus things we really "need". Again I don't know your situation but for us just doing that helped out a bunch. Of course men want to fix things so it may be bothering him if he can't see a way to do that at the moment. You are in my prayers!!

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  6. You are stunning! Even without a face! I am so sorry hubby is being so cold. That has to be a tough situation to deal with. A lot of people raise kids with a lot less so if they can do it - so can you! It'll be right but you'll figure it out. The hubby & I worry too but in the end we'll make it work and so will you guys! Hope your glucose test goes well and those boys stay put long enough for no NICU. hugs to you, sounds like you could use them right now.

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  7. Those photos are amazingly beautiful! I'm so sorry things are hard right now. Praying for you and hubby. *hugs*

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  8. So glad your babies are doing so well! just some info to think about....with my Girls, target and walmart diapers are significantly cheaper and Target especially were just as good as the name brand, same with the Formula if you should need to use it, my kids Ped RECOMMENDED walmart brand/target brand, again significantly cheaper and just as good but without the name brand...also thanks to the ACA, all your babies' wellness appointments will be covered 100% regardless of deductibles so thats good news! I know the money conversations are hard but it will all work out, Praying those babies stay put 13 more weeks at least!!

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  9. Those pictures are absolutely gorgeous! You are such a beautiful mama! I'm sorry about the financial stress :(. If there is a will, there is a way and I know you'll get through it!! XO

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  10. Awe, sorry to hear there have been some rough waters. I think it's totally normal to be a bit stressed over finances given all that's going on. Let yourselves be a little imperfect. You are going to be amazing parents to those two little babies, and I'm sure hubby will come around soon enough. Your pics are beautiful even if we can't see your face...which I'm sure is beautiful too!

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  11. SO sorry you are dealing with that. I'm believing that God is going to provide in EVERY area of your life. Submit all your stress and requests to Him - He cares. He listens xoxo

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  12. Those pictures are gorgeous! I love the dress!

    Sorry about all the stress. I know it can be so hard on a marriage, especially with all the stress that comes along with just having babies. I hope things smooth out for you guys soon. xo

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  13. You look beautiful in your maternity pictures! I'm so sorry for the stress you're feeling. It's not fair that having a family is so expensive. Hope everything works out for you with finances.

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  14. I'm so sorry you are going through this stress. It can be so hard and so overwhelming. Some of the things my husband and I are doing to help prepare for our little one is using cloth diapers (it can be an added expense upfront (much cheaper if you can find the ones you want used!!) but saves a lot in the long run when disposable diapers cost between $2000-$3000 per child. We are hoping to breastfeed as well to help save. Clothing I only buy secondhand. I can't justify spending $15 on one outfit when I can get 3 or 4 for the same price. I hope things become less overwhelming for you.

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  15. You look beautiful!! I'm sorry about all the stress that comes along with everything, but I know in my heart everything will work out. Big hugs.

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  16. Sorry you are feeling so stressed. I can tell you that it does all somehow work out, but I know how scary it can be. If it's any consolation, it looks like your maternity pictures came out absolutely gorgeous!

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  17. Thank you for commenting on my
    Blog. I am sorry for all the stress. Hope you are feeling better!! I look forward to hearing your next update.

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